There are no drivers available (and none are needed) other than what Windows XP provides. So stop wasting your time looking for something that doesn't exist. The only drivers that exist are for DOS and you don't need those when your running Windows XP os. The support that exists natively from Windows XP is the only support you will get other than from recording software and dvd decoding software. I suggest you do a thorough cleaning of ALL software you have installed trying to get this drive to work, including the registry. If you are unable to do this manually then get software that will do it for you (like Registry Mechanic 5.1). Once you have all software removed and the registry clean, then check to see if the drive will read a data or music disk. If it won't then Windows is not detecting your drive properly.
CD RW issues are often helped by the "Delete upper and lower filters" fix in the registry:
Might be worth a shot...
Do not install any recording software until the drive is able to read a data or music disk properly. Once it does, then install only 1 compatible recording software (not more than one). Installing multiple recording software on a machine will cause trouble like your presently experiencing. Make sure it's compatible before installing it by checking the recording software makers webiste drive compatibility page. For instance, Easy Cd Creator must be version 5.x or higher. Older recording software won't work in Windows XP. After installing one recording software, then check to insure it works properly before installing DVD decoding software (which allows the drive to read/play dvd disks.
You possibly have a defective drive or one with a dirty laser lens. Have you tried cleaning it?
When a drive is properly configured with the master/slave/cs jumper on the back, and it's connected to a working secondary ide port, then Windows will usually properly detect it and install native support without user intervention or without notification. The only way to tell if it's installed properly is to check in My Computer or Device Manager to see if it's listed there. Then at that point is when you need to test it to see if it reads a data or music disk ok.
Easy Cd Creator or Nero either one, installs lots of files and dozens of registry entries and the removal program does not clean those registry entries. The yhave to be cleaned by software or manually.